Attend the BConnected Conference Twitter Party March 29, 2017, at 8 PM EDT! #BConnectedTO

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The BConnected Conference will be held on Saturday, April 22nd and Sunday, April 23rd, 2017 at the Renaissance Toronto Downtown Hotel. The conference offers amazing components: interactive sessions, keynote speakers, one-on-one speed networking with sponsors, an exhibitor’s hall as well as Social Networking Events, and more surprises!


They will have speakers who will be sharing their skills and experience with attendees to help obtain hands-on and useful information to enhance their social media and blogging skills. Attendees will also be able to increase their network by connecting with fellow influencers and entrepreneurs, after all, being connected is what the conference is all about!


Join us on

Wednesday, March 29th, 2017

at 8 pm EDT

for the #BConnectedTO Twitter Party!

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BConnected Conference Twitter Party Details

When: Wednesday, March 29th, 2017

Time: 8 pm EDT

Hashtag: #BConnectedTO

Where: TwitterTwubs or Tweetdeck!

Follow your Host: @BConnectedConf and Moderators: @OttawaMommy Club and @CanBlogHouse

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Fabulous prizes from BConnected Conference sponsors will be drawn at the end of the Twitter Party! Prizes will be announced the week of the party.

Please RSVP by adding your Twitter handle to the linky below, so you will be eligible to win!

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Winter Family Adventures in Photos

Hey Readers!

Well, March Break is almost over, and spring is all but here! It was a crazy winter in my neck of the woods. It started late, but when it decided to unleash its fury, we were really snowed in! I thought I would chronicle my family’s winter adventures through a gallery of photos we took over the season!

Christmas! One of my favourite times of the year! We had a blast putting up the tree, decorating the house and getting ready for the Man in Red to arrive!


Reese Speaks Christmas Eve Peanuts Tree Photo

This was the second tree we “put up” this year. I loved it!


Reese Speaks Christmas Eve Stockings Photo


Reese Speaks Christmas Eve Cookies Photo

The Big Guy has a little bit of everything!


Ah, Christmas morning! Our kids couldn’t wait to open their stockings before breakfast and then their gifts after we ate. Santa was good to our kids, and they were playing all day with their toys!


Reese Speaks Christmas Day Stockings Photo


Food is always a HUGE part of our holiday traditions, and my other half made sure we were fed well with his special chicken dish for Christmas Eve and a terrific turkey dinner for Christmas Day!


Reese Speaks Christmas Dinners Photos


With Murphy’s Law at play, the snow came after Christmas! My guy took advantage of our winter wonderland and build a snow fort and a snow hill for our kids to enjoy. We even got the sleds out and tried to get some air time with the little ones on them.


Reese Speaks Snow Play Photo

Their smiles were infectious! I t was hard to keep the camera still for these pics!


Reese Speaks Winter Outdoor Play Collage Photo

I think the faces of my daughters says it all!


My little guy LOVED the winter! He would take any chance he could to be outside and play in the snow, even if it was to help me shovel the driveway. He even learned about the hazardous life snowmen live.


Reese Speaks Cous Winter Fun Collage Photo

My little guy is super helpful!


Oh, the night of the big football game is another favourite part of winter in our home! We got out our projector and watched it on our living room wall as we ate a family favourite for Game Nights: Chicken Nachos! We even dressed up for the night in our jerseys and goofed around. It was a fun night for us all!


Reese Speaks Big Game Collage Photo


There are times during the winter that you just want to stay inside and hide from winter’s frightful fury. There were quite a few nights where we had fun indoors. From a morning sneak attack in bed to a rock out session in our basement, we had a blat without cracking the door open!


Reese Speaks Winter Indoor Bed Photo.jpg


Reese Speaks Drums Collage Photo

This was such a fun night! Maybe we’ll put a band together?

Nature is so beautiful around our home at this time of year. Even though there are no leaves on the trees, the snow and ice take over and create their own breathless magic in our backyard and front yard oasis.

Reese Speaks Winter Nature Collage Photo

These were just some of the adventures my family had during this roller coaster ride of a winter this year! Now that the snow is beginning to recede, I am REALLY looking forward to all of the awesomeness spring has to offer us this year now that the kids are old enough to really start exploring the world around them. Thank you, Winter, for helping our family to create some amazing memories. We will never forget them!

What part of winter puts a smile on your face?

Until my next post, Readers!


Favourite Fall Memories, 2015

Reese_Speaks_Fall_Chicken_11302015Hey Readers,

I know, it’s been a  while since I’ve shared anything with you. Life got a bit crazy, and this is the first chance since my last post that I have been able to check in.

It’s the last day of November, and for me, it is the last day before the holiday season begins and it is full steam ahead with getting our family and our home ready for it all! It kicks off with Grandma’s (my mom, but she doesn’t have kids anymore,or so she says) birthday, and it snowballs from there.

So to say goodbye to fall, I thought I would share some of may favourite Fall memories from this year with you through pics I snapped.

My little guy is in love with this time of year. We learned this year that he is a huge Halloween fan. He loved every pumpkin and gourd that we passed, wanting to take them home with us. If he had his way, our home would be forever full of them!




Speaking of Halloween, my guy rolled up his sleeves and dove in to getting ready for day! He carved pumpkins, made decorations and dressed up our porch, and took the kids out trick-or-treating. Once back, the kids rocked out in my past Halloween costume wigs before putting and end to the day.



We had a mixed bag of weather this autumn. Some days were warm and gorgeous, while others were, well, blah! On those good days, we made sure to get the kids outside and to enjoy what nice days we had left this year. My other half even had the kids out with him while he raked up the leaves. The job took a bit longer than expected, but the kids had a lot of fun!





The leaves were exceptionally gorgeous in our backyard this year, so I had to capture their beauty in pics! We also had a pumpkin in our backyard that did not make it to Halloween to rest for its final days, so the shutterbug in me had to get a pic of it while it still looked good.




The Japanese Maple lost its leaves early, but there were still a few of them in our yard. Their leaves always alive with colour, no matter the time of year they are present on the tree, and this one just stood out from the rest of the crowd present.




Then, high above the ground in our backyard, there was the golden sea of gold that still shimmered to us from below. It was so stunning. I can’t wait to frame this one!




This little critter decided to visit us on our front porch before getting itself ready for its long slumber. My kids and I got a big kick out it.



Oh, food! The Jack of All Trades in our home whipped together some amazing food for us this season! He loves trying to make delicious dishes from what is left in our Mother Hubbard cupboards as well as some ingredients he picks up from the grocery store. We ate really well this season!




My family had an amazing autumn! We worked hard, played hard and ate well. It is sad to say goodbye to the vibrant colours and warm weather, but it was great to look back and see all of the fun we had!

What were some of your favourite fall memories this year?

Until my next post, Readers!


Happy 3rd Anniversary, Reese Speaks!

Happy Anniversary!

Hey Readers!

Three years have gone by quickly for this blogger! It honestly seems as though I am still in my first year of starting this blog and sharing my world with you! So many things have happened, and the adventures and opportunities I have had in this year have been fabulous and priceless!

One of the biggest opportunities I have had this year was becoming the Editor for the Ottawa Mommy Club. Lyne Proulx has been wonderful to allow me to do what I do for her blog, and she has taught me so much more about the ins and outs of the blogging world.  She has also given me so many experiences to write about and share on her blog. It has and continues to be such an adventure. I cannot thank her enough!

I also did a lot of fun things on my blog this past year. As I mentioned in my ”Year-End Wrap” post, I met a soap opera star, I got engaged, and I have had spent some great times with friends and family, sharing experiences and reviews on my blog. I have a lot of fun, and there are better thing to come with this coming year!

Being a part of the blogging community has just been wonderful for me! I have met some of the nicest people who are so helpful and giving! They are always there for each other for support or to answer questions others may have. I got to know a core group of them while blogging for Ottawa Mommy Club and being the Community Coordinator for BConnected Conference for the past two years. This year, there were so many more bloggers involved with putting this conference together, so I go t to know them better. It is sort of like being a newbie getting to work alongside some of the best people in their field. I do get a bit star-struck by them, and it also pushes me harder to want to be a better blogger.

Being a parent, I think the learning never ends! My kids can be at different ends of the spectrum in the same moment, so I have to learn how to figuratively sit on my hands a bit more and let situations ride. I am also amazed by my kids day after day with the achievements they have experienced, and the adventures they have no matter where they are.

The ''Bosses'' during a VERY important business meeting.

The ”Bosses” during a VERY important business meeting.

Another person who has been a great part of my blog has been my fiancé. He does so much for our family, and has been such a supporter of me and allowing me to do what makes me happy. He is also a wiz at just about everything he does, and I have showcased some of his amazing dishes on the blog and my other social media channels.

Finally, you, Readers, have been so awesome to Reese Speaks since I started blogging. I have more readers than I did last year, and have been commenting and sharing my experiences as well. It is such a rush to see you reading and engaging here. I really cannot thank you enough.

Mucking About in Buckle Rain Boots from Joe Fresh

Hiya Readers!

A gift from my Other Half helped to scratch off another item I had listed on my “Must-Have” list for this spring. Since we were getting outerwear for our “Bosses,” he thought it would be nice to get me a pair of rain boots so I could muck about more with my kids without hearing me complain about my running shoes getting soaked.

Since we like shopping for some our outerwear at Joe Fresh, we saw their Buckle Rain Boots in their women’s section online. I thought they were cute, and khaki green is right on point as military colours are hot colours for this spring and summer. I like the look of these boots, so we bought them. I do wish that there was a bit more of a selection for women to choose from, since khaki green may not be everyone’s cup of tea.


I was so excited when they arrived a few days later in the mail. They were cute, and I loved the detailing of the buckles on the calf and the ankle. It gives the boot more of a chic riding boot look. I also like that this boot is functional for those times when you want to have a bit of fun and splash about or get work done in the garden.


An extra bit of fun with this boot is the hunter’s orange Joe Fresh decided to go use inside of the boot. I like clothing that has hidden fun bits that only those wearing them would know about, and this feature is definitely one of them.


When I finally took them out for a spin, I made sure to put them through their paces. I wore them in my #backayardoasis while getting my kids outside for some fresh air. They were comfy for running after two toddlers and running up and down our back porch stairs to get snacks for them.


I also wore them while running errands in my neighbourhood while “chauffeuring” my Bosses around. I was standing in these boots for a about 1.5 hours, and my feet were not sore.

Here are some other things to take into consideration about the Joe Fresh Buckle Rain Boot:

  • Price Point – $34 CAD. That is not a bad price for a pair of rain boots. I was willing to pay more for a good pair of boots.
  • Colour – Khaki green is a neutral colour, so it can be worn with a lot of items in your wardrobe
  • Outfit Pairings – For me, the best pair of pants to wear with these boots would be either skinny jeans or leggings. Depending on your calves, you may have to fidget with your pant legs while putting them on if you wear straight leg, bootcut or flared-style of pant.

Overall, I am happy with the Buckle Rain Boots from Joe Fresh. They are cute and functional, not expensive, and they go well with a lot of what I already have in my closet (double word score!). I can’t wait to have more fun in my new rain boots in the rain!

If you were to buy a pair of rain boots, which colour would your choose?

Until my next post, Readers!


Disclaimer: I was not compensated in any way to write this post. I wanted to share a fun fashion find with you!

Reese Speaks on Early Morning TV

Hey Readers!

As I posted on my personal social media pages, I have finally crossed another item off of my Bucket List. For those of you who don’t know this about me, I LOVE television. If I’m not out and about or reading, I have my favourite shows to watch and catch up on. I have also wondered what it would be like to be on television. Sure, there are the fantasies of one day becoming a soap opera actress on my favourite soap, but I have also wanted to know just what it would be like to be on live television, how it all fell into place, and whether I would be able to cut the mustard and not fall to pieces in front of countless people watching me for a change.

My friend and fellow blogger, Vanessa from Turnipseed Travel, gave me this chance a few weeks ago when she, ever so graciously, suggested that I appear on CTV Morning Live to do a segment for Mother’s Day on five apps for busy moms on the go. At first, I was not sure I could do it, well, because I was never a great public speaker. This was the part of the school year I hated withe the fires of a thousand suns. Sharing what I thought or what I was interested in was in front of my teacher and classmates made me really ill, and I was glad when the 3-5 minute torture session was over. Over the years, I have become better with sharing my thoughts and interests (this blog has helped), but I am still a nervous about it, and I was curious about what it would be like to have this experience. After talking it over with one of my gal-pals, JC, I accepted this opportunity (Thanks, Vanessa and JC)!

After ironing out all of the details, I chose five of the apps I wanted to share with CTV Morning Live and busy parents that I thought they would get a kick out of trying. These were my picks for this segment:

  • Keeps users up-to-date with events that are happening in your city and to purchase tickets to attend these events. It also allows for event promoters to post their events to the site to get the word out about what will be happening in their city.

  • Provides users with recipes for any type of meal when they are unsure of what to fix for themselves.

  • Helps users to plan out meals by providing recipes, a place to store planned meals, and a grocery list to pick up items needed to put a meal together.

  • A cloud-based planning calendar to keep events of each family member in one place, as well as chores each person is responsible for in and around the house to minimize confusion.
  • An storage app that allows you to save articles, videos and other web content to view later whenever you like, and to share these items with those you think would enjoy them. It also has Desktop  Browser extensions to use when you are not on a mobile device to further save content you want to view at your leisure.

All of these apps can be used by Android and iPhone users.

Over the next few days, all I could think about was how to get through each of the apps smoothly, without freezing. Having dead air is one of the fears of live television, and I did not want to be the cause of it because I became nervous and could not string two words together to save my life while people at home are watching me, wondering how the show could have picked me for this segment. So I practiced what I would say anytime I could while getting other things done, like cooking, working on other tasks and at the park with my “Bosses” while they “socialized.”

Finally, the big morning arrived. Lucky for me, I did not sleep well the past few nights, so getting up early to gussy myself up was not a problem!  😛  On the way to the CTV Studios, I continued to speak to myself, going over what I was going to share. I went through security, and sat, nervously, waiting to speak to the floor director, the producer who contacted me about my segment and Jeff Hopper, one of the hosts of the show who would be guiding me through this segment, about what would  be happening for my five seconds in the sun. For the few moments I was alone, I was talking to myself again, making sure I got everything down pat. I was so nervous, that I didn’t even take any photos of anything!

All of a sudden, it was showtime! Jeff introduced me (on behalf of Ottawa Mommy Club), and away we went. Then my greatest fear happened: I froze! I like to call it my “Frozen Moment.” It may have been for a few seconds, but it felt as though it was a few minutes. I went blank, and I had so many thoughts running through my head, yet none would come out of my mouth! Finally, I pulled myself together and started talking again. Jeff helped me get through the rest of the the segment so easily, and I went from blank and silent to a Chatty Cathy! the next thing I knew, the segment was over, and the camera was off. I then thanked Jeff and the floor director for the experience, and went on my way home.

It was so such a whirlwind experience, it was over so quickly. No, Readers, there was no limo waiting for me to take me to some extravagant event, or to take me to some important appointment. Life went on, and I went back into “Me Mode” where I take care of my “Bosses” and clack away on my laptop. The best part of returning home after this experience was the reaction from my family. My Other Half was so proud of me, and my Bosses were excited to see me on television. He recorded it on my phone so I could watch it as soon as I got home. I still don’t believe I did it!

Is Hollywood knocking down my door: Nope. Would I ever do this experience again: In. A. Heartbeat! I wish I could host a morning show! The hours are great (for me), the interesting people and topics you would deal with on a daily basis vary, so there’s no monotony, and it’s so fast-paced, so you are always on your toes to provide some spontaneity!

Click here to view my segment on CTV Morning Live!

Until my next post, Readers!


National Siblings Day: Fond Memories and Great Life Lessons

Hey Readers! Today is National Siblings Day, and it got me thinking about my two older siblings and everything we have been through through my lifetime. There are so many memories and lessons that both of my siblings taught me (whether they were aware of it or not), and they make me feel happy that they are in my life. They helped to make this little lady into the woman I am today. Even then, I was tipping my hat to people!


Here is a pic of the three of us many moons ago! Yes, Mr. T was a big influence on me, Readers! 😛


My older brother, for the most part, was the main male influence in my life when I was little. He was the oldest and was also the only boy. I felt, at times, that he was a bit lonely, especially since there was a bit of a gap between him and rest of us (he is four years older than my sister and 5 1/2 years older than me). He did what many older siblings did, you know, hog the television when our mom wasn’t watching it, tell us tall tales about why things were the way they were, and use us as guinea pigs for his various “experiments.”

One of my favourite memories has to be when I was about five years-old, and my brother thought he was a gourmet baker. He decided that he would make a cake from cake mix and thought he knew what he was doing. After putting in WAY too many eggs into the mix, resulting in a very gloppy and bubbly mess after he took it out of the oven. Realizing that he shouldn’t be the first to taste his masterpiece, he turned to us to see if the cake tasted okay. let’s just say we let him know just how great his creative cake was with a mess all our own all over our tiny kitchen! Even though my brother did all of these things to my sister and I, there were other things my brother did that helped me learn some great lessons throughout my time at home.

Out of all of us, he was the quiet one, so I learned how to stop blabbing all the time and to try listening once in a while to what others are saying. He also taught us how to play video games and introduced me to the wonderful world of comic books that I still enjoy today. His closet became my closet, too. There were times that he allowed me to borrow his clothes during my tom boyish phase throughout high school. The fact that the jeans I borrowed from him were baggy on him didn’t stop me from sporting the latest fashion trends (they were a waist men’s size 44, and I was lucky enough to be a women’s size 24…yeah, it was fun to keep these babies up!). My brother is a very interesting cat who, for being the quiet one, never gave our home a dull moment and let us know he cares about us in his subtle ways.

This is an even older pic of my big brother. He had to be about four or five years-old here. Like me, he’s camera shy.


My older sister and I have had an interesting relationship. When we were younger, we had our love-hate moments, but, if push came to shove (you know, fights over clothes and make up), we always could depend on each other. My sister is also a very funny character and there were times that I had to explain certain things to her. There were song lyrics I had to correct for her (ex – “Soap On A Rope” was really “End Of The Road”,) and the many times we played practical jokes on other family members, both at home and on road trips. It took a while for me to realize just how much my big sis really cared about me, and now we are the best of friends.

My sister has and continues to teach me so many life lessons. She plays Devil’s advocate to see things from another point of view. She calms me down and makes me sit on my hands when I get too upset about a situation. She taught me to do things for myself when she knew I could do it on my own. I learned so many fashion tips and tricks from her over the years as a result of plundering her closet time and time again. She taught me to expand my appreciation of music by having to listen to some of her “questionable” choices (some of them have been used in my Mundane Monday Morning Music picks). I continue to learn how to face the unknown without fear as she experienced different situations in her life. Finally, she continues to teach me that life is a crazy adventure, and to have fun along the way, especially when you get lost (as we have on MANY occasions)! She sets such an example for me to try and live up to. I don’t know what I would do without this crazy and clever cat!

I don’t have any pics of her when she was a child. This one I found in an old wallet of mine from high school. She loves the camera, and it loves her, too!


So there you have it! We have had our ups and downs, but we are siblings and we love each other a bunch. I am raising my “bosses” to love each other and to look out for one another every day. I hope that they have such fond memories of each other as they become adults and giggle at their cute, fun and goofy pics of when they were young like I have today.


Are you the oldest, the middle or the youngest child? What was the best memory or lesson you were taught by your siblings?

Until my next post, Readers!


That’s My Baby!

Hey Readers! I realized something about myself that I didn’t think really existed becoming until now. I am slowly becoming what I call the “Cheerleading Mom” You know, kind of like Claire Huxatable whenever one of the kids on the show accomplished some sort of accomplishment. When one of the kids got through their arduous task, you would see Claire, the proudest person in the room, jump out of her chair, clapping and say, “That’s My Baby!”

Watching my kids grow up and accomplishing their own “Herculean feats,” I have noticed that I may have been a little inspired by this character when acknowledging their achievements. If it’s not the cheer Claire used for her kids, it’s an enthusiastic cheer session for their first words and first steps, or a whoop and super big hugs for “conquering the throne” or learning how to share their most favourte toy. Oh, the cheer session is not done in the privacy of our home, either. I do try to remember to tone it down a bit so I don’t to embarrass them, but I do also want them to know how proud I am of them.

My latest cheer session was at my daughter’s

volleyball tournament. She was put into the game after sitting out for a bit during the Gold Medal game. It was a bit of a tough day for her since her serve was a bit off, but she helped her team not only come back from a deficit, but made the winning play to win the gold! I was so happy and proud of my child overcoming her trouble and stepping up to do what she did that I shot right out my seat on the bleachers and cheered for my girl! I was also the only one to do so, but how many moments are there in life that I will witness my girl scoring the championship point? Maybe many times, or maybe never again! I also took a lot of pics of her when her team received their medals to keep this moment for those who couldn’t make it out to see this achievement.

That's my eldest baby bringing home the gold after her championship-winning play. It was an awesome moment!

That’s my eldest baby bringing home the gold after her championship-winning play. It was an awesome moment!

Am I going a little bit overboard? Maybe, depending on the situation. Do I care, NOPE! Why do I think this is worthy topic to even be spending my time clacking away on my computer about? Because I care about my kids, and I’m a proud mama! It’s my way of letting them know just how proud of them I am when they have achieved a goal or a good grade. I also want them knowing I’m their #1 fan.Even though I will always think of them my babies, I am also amazed at how much they are growing into some awesome kids, and eventually, adults.

Are you a “Cheerleader Mom” like me? What do you do when your child achieves a goal?

Until my next post, Readers!


What’s In A (Last) Name?

Hey Readers!

Now that I’m engaged, the fun and the planning of this wedding have (slowly) begun. There are so many little moving parts to this shindig that we have to consider.  There’s the venue, the invitee list, the decor, the dress, but there is also one matter that nags at me from time to time: my name. My last name to be exact. For some brides-to-be, this is a no-brainer solution, but for others, it’s one to be considered carefully. Would I want to change my last name or should I just keep it as it is?

When I was younger, there was no doubt in my mind that I would keep it as it was. Why change what was perfect? As I grew up, I had begun to flip-flop with the notion of changing my name. Why not be know as Mrs. Jones or Mrs. Smith? Of course, I turned to my friends for guidance.  Just about all of my friends are married, or have been married, and they were a wealth on knowledge and opinions.  They were also split down the middle between Team Change or Team Keep It. Here are the reasons they gave me on both sides of the situation.

Team Change

  1. Spirituality – The union of marriage unites two people, making them a singular unit. Since you are now “one,” why not complete our union by sharing a last name.
  2. Tradition – This is how some people were brought up, and they want to carry on this tradition of taking the name of their partner.  It also ties in nicely to my first point in this section. I have heard of both women and men changing their names to become a family unit.
  3. Confusion – Oh, the explaining I would have to go through when people ask why I didn’t take my other half’s last name! No one will be able to call us “The Smiths” or “Mrs. Smith” because, quite literally, I wouldn’t be! I would also have to be constantly correcting people when, with the family, I am refered to as “Mrs. Smith”


Team Keep It

  1. Professional – If I have done work under one name, then it may become a bit confusing to those following you if I changed my name.  I could change it legally, but professionally, it may just be easier to keep it as it is.
  2. Financial – It costs money to have my name. I’m not a cheap person, but I would have a lot amount of documentation  to change to be known as Mrs. So-And-So. I know, it takes away form the romance and the family unity, but it is not an overnight change, either.
  3. Identity – Why should have to change my last name to become a family? Does changing my name automatically bond us together as a family? No, so then why make this change?

After mulling over all of the points of view my friends had on this subject, I made a decision. I will be keeping my last name. What made me decide to keep my last name the same? It had to do with the identity factor. I just could not see myself being called by anything else than my last name. I tried hearing what my last name would be if I changed it, and it just didn’t sound right in my ears. As well, I just wouldn’t feel like me with any other last name. As much as I do like keeping certain traditions, but not this one. Besides, with my mindset, my last name suits my somewhat stubborn nature, lending more support to Team Keep It side of the question at hand.

Now that one of the million of decisions has been made about this wedding, it can be crossed off of the “Wedding To-Do” list. Whew!  😛

Would you change your last name? What helped you make this decision?

Until my next post, Readers!