I’m engaged! It’s an experience that I thought I would never have. It’s not as if I do not think that I am worthy of being proposed to by someone (actually, I think I’m priceless!), but I just never saw myself as getting engaged.
Most girls have the “Wedding Day” fantasy. You know, donning the white gown, the big ceremony with your family and friends looking on as you glide down the aisle towards your groom. That wasn’t mine at all. I saw myself as being a take-charge type of woman who wore fancy suits and lived in a condo with a cute little dog. I thought I would live vicariously through my siblings, being “Cool Auntie Reese,” spoiling my nieces and nephews whenever I would see them. What about having a man in my life? Well, they would be present, but marriage was never really a wish I had for myself.
Boy, has my life turned out differently! I now have three kids of my own, no fancy condo (I’m kind of happy about that), and no small dog (hopefully, we will have one soon). I’ve changed, and so have the dreams and aspirations I want for my life. This whole “engagement” status is still foreign to me. I’m from a family where weddings are the norm, so for me, being engaged is a whole new concept.
How did it happen? It came out of nowhere. After getting home from a quasi Date Night with my other half, he took me downstairs to our basement and went over to our desk and opened one of the drawers. He then took out a box that held two smaller boxes. I asked him what was going on, wondering what was going on, and he seemed a little nervous. Now, before you think that this is a great killing scene from a murder-mystery novel, he got down on one knee, surprising the hell out of me, and proposed. After a lot of babbling on my part (surprise, surprise), I said yes! No, Readers, there was no engagement ring in either of the boxes, either, but two rings. Wedding bands to be exact. They are unlike any rings I have ever seen, and I can’t wait to wear them!
Wait, so you’re probably asking why there’s no engagement ring? The answer is simple. I told my guy I didn’t want one because I feel as though my other half should also have to wear a similar type ring on his finger. He was not keen on wearing an engagement ring. Don’t get me wrong, I think that engagement rings are gorgeous, and, if I were to wear one, I know what kind I would want to have, but for me, having a ring is not necessary in order to become engaged.
Okay, Readers! The question has been “popped” and accepted. Great! Okay, where do we go from here? The next general steps would be to set a date and get our plans for this shindig rolling! From past experience of being in charge of event planning for my previous employer, I know that there will be a lot of tasks to get through to making sure this special day goes off well. Luckily, I have many friends who have been through weddings and are event planners, so I have a vast wealth on knowledge to turn to if I need advice or help.
Maybe it is because my other half and I have started our life together and our family is, well, complete baby-wise, that I am not starry-eyed about starting this next chapter in our relationship. I am tickled pink that we are getting married, but I guess it is because a mystery of what it would be like to be living with someone and starting a family together is no longer a mystery is why I am not starry-eyed about being engaged. That is why I am saying, besides planning a wedding, what else is there? This is the one thing that I can’t really go to anyone for advice since I don’t know anyone who has been in my situation. I guess I will just sit back and bask in the glow of this special time in my life!
Here’s to getting engaged!
Until my next post, Readers!